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June 30, 2009

Yes, I know, I’ve been slacking, and I apologize to those who have come here to find the same thing, day after day…Let’s see, where do I start..? The new phone of the previous post has been replaced by an HTC Touch Pro – the Mogul is cool, but a little bulkier than what I was wanting. Any Sprint customers out there looking for a new phone? Well, phone & pocket pc. It does about a bazillion cool things, and I’m selling it.
I have been working (for me…) a jacked up shift of 8-5. Have I mentioned I’m not a morning person? Oh yeah…once or twice. In order for me to be at work by 8, and not killing anyone & everyone, I have to get up at 4:30. Yep, you read that right – 4:30…in the morning…nothing like going to bed while it’s still daylight to mess your world all up!
So I haven’t been doing much of nothing beyond work, sleep, and driving from the place I do one to the place I do the other. I haven’t even been following my favorite blogs 😦 Hopefully now that I’m almost back to normal hours (volunteered for 9:00-6:30 on Friday) I’ll be able to do a little more stuffs.
My boy has finally lost his other front tooth. From the looks of the one that has grown in, he’s been cursed with my big teeth, but it looks like the (huge, horrible, almost unavoidable) family (as in damn near every cousin from my Mom’s side of the family) overbite. So I’m hoping…
Ok work calls, will try to get back here sooner…


Not Your Typical Mother’s Day Post

May 10, 2009

It’s Mother’s Day. That one day of the year that should be the exclusive domain of the mother in your world. Not a Pagan holiday – but yet a day acknowledged by us. But how many celebrate the day in honor of the real “Mother” – the Earth that sustains us all. Oh, that’s done on Earth Day, you say…oh ok, well then let’s focus on more mundane mothers.

Not all women are destined to be mothers, no all women want to be mothers, and some women just shouldn’t be mothers. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with not being a mother is the truest sense – not giving birth. There are many other ways to  be a “mother.” All it requires is unconditional love…simple, huh..? Well, maybe not so much. And yet, a true mother offers just that to her children, be they born to her, adopted by her, or found on the street by her. They can be boys, girls, cats, dogs, ferrets, hamsters, or anything else a woman gives unconditional love to. Yes, you do have to be female to be a mother. But understand in my world, gender is determined by who you are, not what genitalia you happen to be born with.

Unfortunately, there are also women who are termed “mother” but have no right to the title. Women who abuse or abandon the children they created. Many would like to deny that a mother could ever harm her child, but I hate to tell ya, it happens EVERY DAY, in any number of ways. Beating or physically harming a child is not the only form of abuse there is. I would hazard to say, may reading this are fully aware of that, as many of the Pagans I know have been, as children, harmed by their mothers (and fathers). But most have done their best to overcome that damage (yes, I said damage, because it IS damaging. There is NO SHAME in admitting you are damaged through no fault of your own. The shame is in denying it, looking the other way, or pretending you are perfectly normal when you aren’t.)

Mothers sometimes cause damage unintentionally, in the “best interests of their child.” Things like teaching a little girl that the way a marriage works is that the man is in control, and has the right to do whatever he wants, whenever he wants, by staying in an abusive relationship. Children learn more by seeing than they ever will by what you say. In my opinion, it is just as bad to teach a child that marriage  is a simple co-existence with someone you really don’t like, by staying in a relationship where the only thing the partners agree on is that it is better for the kids to have two parents than to be exposed to a true, loving partnership.

Mothers who avoid those mistakes by leaving those negative environments tend to do one of two things – either cease to exist as a woman, by not dating at all but rather throwing themselves into raising & providing for their child. They work ridiculous hours, and spend all their free time with their child. While this is admirable, it is still damaging. How will a child ever learn what a loving, healthy relationship is, if they never see the person they most rely on, in such a relationship. How will they even know such a thing is possible..? Again, this isn’t intentional damage, but it is still damage.

Other mothers go the complete opposite way, so concerned that their child have a father figure in their lives, that they date and date and date, and scramble to form a relationship. Unfortunately, this tends to lead to numerous, unstable relationships, and a child who thinks commitment is always short-term. They feel no one will ever be permanent in their lives, so have trust issues & find it hard to love someone – or easy to love everyone…

Some women just shouldn’t be mothers. Ever. They lack that “something” that makes a mom. They have all the necessary equipment to recreate, but shouldn’t. I don’t think this makes them any less of a woman. Perhaps, that special “something” is absorbed by the souls of our gender confused*** friends somewhere in the ether while waiting to “be.” There are many who are born with male genitalia who are awesome mothers. I don’t know, I just know that some women should never, ever, be given the care of a child’s physical & emotional growth. They aren’t capable of doing the job well, and shouldn’t attempt it. Again, I am not condemning these women. I don’t think it makes them less, just different. What may contribute to making them less is an unwillingness to accept that they shouldn’t attempt motherhood. They then place themselves in a position where they are responsible for a child (or children) and lacking all the necessary “things” to do the job well…

Motherhood is a trick bag of options, and there is no manual available. Yet, there are thousands of mothers who manage to do a supremely difficult job and make it look like a breeze. They raise happy well-adjusted children who become happy well-adjusted adults who carry on the cycle. Thank Goddess for these women! Our world would be in a sorry (ok, sorrier) state than it is if it weren’t for women who are willing to give all of themselves to nurturing & loving these little people who will one day be big people to whom the responsibility of raising more little people has been passed in the cycle of life. Those women who are willing to love unconditionally, not only a child they created & gave birth to, but ANY child who needs loved. They hug, kiss, care for, take in and show that there are good people in the world, that they are worthwhile people, worthy of love. Sometimes it is as simple as inviting them in for a drink when they’ve been playing hard – while the woman who gave birth to them is passed out in her room with her newest “father figure.”

So, to those spectacular people, Mothers, I say Thank You. To those who are trying, Thank You. To anyone who is a loving, caring, nurturing Mother, be you male or female, whether your children are human or furbabies, whether you gave birth to your child, or just loved a child who needed it, Thank you.

Happy Mother’s Day!!!


***I don’t think they’re confused, I feel everyone who is willing, knows exactly what and who they are inside themselves, and that that knowledge doesn’t necessarily match what others see on the outside…    

Police Wives Blogathon

April 25, 2009
The Blogathon is On!

The date for the Police Wives Online blogathon is set for Saturday April 25. It will officially start at 9AM Saturday morning and end at 9AM on Sunday. Bloggers will mainly consist of members of Police Wives Online, but I am willing to allow for sign-ups of any interested bloggers, provided all donation are made either through this blog or through the main donation page on Police Wives Online. Donations will benefit the many programs at Police Wives Online including the H.U.G.S. (Helping Uplift Grieving Survivors) program and a newly created scholarship fund for law enforcement families.
Here are the many ways you can help out:……. For more on this, or to donate, go to Police Wives Online

No I’m not a police wife – I’m a redneck, truck driver wife *grin* But I am a police friend & police sister-in-law. I found this by clicking a link in a comment on The Vinyl Villager ( a daily requirement!) which took me to Note To Self (how funny is that…my last post was a “note to self” what a cowinkydink!), which took me to the blog-a-thon. Since I am way broke today (and tomorrow & the next day…) I can’t donate right now, but I can make sure all three of my readers know about it, and give them a chance to go visit & maybe donate to a good cause 🙂

PWO Blogathon Button Comp

Go on! Check it  out! What are you waiting for..?

See ya laterzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Happy Anniversary To Me!

April 16, 2009

Well, as of today, we’ve made it 10 years – and I don’t have time to blog about it 😦 But, if work isn’t entirely stoopid today, I will try to get something up and added to this post. I just wanted to at least pop in and say Thank you my love, for 10 spectacular years, and I’m looking forward to the rest of forever. (not that he even reads this…LOL, at least, I don’t think he does…)


Gotta go get ready for the rat race.

See ya laterzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!


December 5, 2008

Okeedokee, I am back up, kinda sorta, I hope…have had computer issues since the dude who installed the HSD back active downloaded some crap on to it…but I’ll get to that later. RIght now I want to update you real quick like.
We’re in the new house – I don’t have pics yet, but we did add another new family member…you remember, Jingles joined us a couple of months ago..?

Well, we got moved, and found another wandering around our yard. I stooped down to pet him, and he just curled up under my coat and around my feet like he belonged there. But I didn’t take him in right away. I put out food & water, and told Hunny about him. He said he’d take him in when he got home (what a wonderful Hunny I have…) but he wasn’t around when Hunny got home. I figgered someone else beat us to it. I saw the neighbors next morning, turns out her sister had brought him to her as a “gift” and they already had 2 big dogs….they were going to take him to a farm and drop him off, but I offered to take him so…meet Bel
I have some more pics I wanna share, like the one showing how a redneck fixes his car door handle – aww shit – I better just put it up while I’m here…
Or maybe they’re just trying to keep the cold air out..? Hey VV – this was in a Wal_mart parking lot, I think that makes me the winner of the Wal-mart Bingo…
Ok, gotta go, the boy is hollering he wants a jelly sammich, and we gotta get ready to head out.
See ya laterzzzzzzzzzz!

I’m Back ! ! ! !

November 2, 2008

Woohoo!!! I got my Christmas template back! ! ! ! That Rocks!

A New Day..?

October 31, 2008

Well, we’ll just have to see what comes here….Mebbe good, mebbe not…

I’m sorta hijacking a post…and the title *grin*

September 9, 2008

I was checking out the usual suspects (read blogs) this morning, and on Trench Warfare I came across a post that I thought was a great idea. I hijacked the title (as you’ll see if you go visit…) This was started by AntiSWer with a post titled "What I am reading". Let me warn you though, what THEY are reading is much heavier subject matter than what I am reading…

What I am reading: Right now, I am actually a bit short of normal, as I just finished one book and I am waiting on the next to arrive via USPS…but I am going to include that book, as it was VERY good. It’s called Dies The Fire: A Novel of Change by S.M. Stirling.

The basic premise is all of a sudden, anything and everything mechanical, electrical, powered in any way other than by "Armstrong Energy" quits working. Everything. At the same time. That translates to major catastrophe – think about it – planes fall out of the sky, communication is non-existent, cell phones, land lines, radios, short-wave, all kaput. No electricity anywhere in the world. Guns don’t work. Cars, trucks, buses quit where they are. No more computers. Are you getting the picture..? Riots, panic, looting. No one believes it’s for good (kinda like us Americans not believing gas prices are going to stay at ridiculous levels and still buying SUVs and huge trucks…).

The book follows two different groups and their response to "The Change." One group is in a small plane when it hits. The other is in a bar (the "leader" is a Celtic singer). The singer is a witch. Yep – that’s what caught my attention. But boy am I glad it did. like I said, I found this to be an excellent book.

I have read another book by the same author, "Conquistador," which is also an "alternate reality" scenario. Also very good. But despite feeling that the books were similar (as in the basic idea, not the stories themselves), I didn’t realize they were the same author until I went looking for the follow-up to Dies…LOL. So now I sit, waiting for the next (two) installments to arrive 😦 I hate that. I have about 10-12 different series I am "waiting for the next installment" on. And several more that should have follow-ups, but seemingly won’t…that majorly SUX!

Ok, the next book I am currently reading is "His Dark Materials" by Philip Pullman. As a rule, if a book grabs me, it’s history! I can usually read a fairly large book (Dies has 496 pages, and reading only on my lunch hour & breaks, I finished it in less than a week), in no time flat. If it grabs me…my preferred genres are Historical Fiction, usually based on real events,  Fantasy, and Horror ( although I’ll admit horror has taken a backseat – mainly because I rarely buy a book new, and for a long time couldn’t find any horror in the used book stores that I hadn’t already read, and that wasn’t romance disguised as horror…). His Dark Materials definitely falls into the Fantasy category, and I was excited when I got it, but…I have had it for several months and still haven’t finished it. I probably won’t. It just hasn’t grabbed me…

The next book I am reading is "Black Cross" by Greg Iles. Completely different from the others. This book is set during World War II, and contains alot of Nazi/concentration camp type stuff. I like books like this. I truly believe that those who are ignorant of history are doomed to repeat it. On a side note, I used to be married to a man with the last name of "Hess." Now it would seem to be a fairly simple name, both as far as pronunciation and spelling, but apparently it isn’t. As a form of clarification, when giving my name I would jokingly say "You know, like  Uncle Rudolph…" Rudolph Hess, one of Hitler’s right hand men, next in line after Goering, one of the most heinous and notorious people of recent (we’re only talking 60 years or so ago…) history. His name should be familiar to anyone over the age of, oh say 15? who is breathing, and most definitely should at least ring a bell for those over 30. Yet I consistently received blank stares when I made that comment, followed by "Who..?" To me that is SCARY! How can you not be familiar with the name of the man who ordered and participated in the deaths of MILLIONS if not BILLIONS of people? Not just death, but mutilation, torture,  experimenta-tion on, and flat out MURDER..? Do you live in the same world I do..? How will you recognize these things early enough to stop them in the future? This is how these things are allowed to occur.


I just started a book called "A Mankind Witch" by Dave Freer. I’m only about 20 pages in, so really can’t comment yet, beyond it being set amongst the Vikings, or a Viking type peoples, and so far seems pretty good.

When it comes to books, I could go on and on. But Hunny just called and said gas prices have jumped .40 and I didn’t fill up yesterday…so now I gotta go find some cheap gas before there isn’t any…that is cheap, relatively speaking – $3 is never cheap…

See ya laterzzzzzzzzzzzz!!! 


International Disturbed People’s Day

August 9, 2008

I don’t care if you lick windows,take the special bus or occasionally pee on yourself..
You hang in there sunshine, you’re friggin’ special…
Every sixty seconds you spend angry, upset or mad, is a full minute of happiness you’ll never get back.
Today is International Disturbed People’s Day –

Today’s Message of the Day is:

Life is short,
Break the rules,
Forgive quickly,
Kiss slowly,
Love truly,
Laugh uncontrollably,
Never regret anything that made you smile.

I Won ! I Won ! Well – I got 2nd anyways….

June 13, 2008

Hey All! Just popping in for a minute or two, as I am actually on my way to bed. But I wanted to share. I know it’s off-topic here, but after the last week, week and a half that I’ve had, I just got some good news. Over at Hey! It’s Free, Goob had a contest. You had to use Google Maps, and locate a bunch of stuff, then send him the link to the picture of it. Many of the items were pretty obscure, and there were like 50 things. He says no one found them all (even though I thought I did :(   ), but I came in 2nd just the same! I actually won $25. For basically playing on the computer! I did have to reboot and frequently empty my temporary files, ‘cuz all the pics are cached, and can kinda slow things down, but it was really fun. And I love a good challenge (as I’m sure Tom, over at Tom’s Hideaway can attest to!)

If you like a deal (and who doesn’t..?) you should go check his blog out. I’ve signed up for quite a few of the offers, and most of the stuff has come rolling in. Plus I won $25! It looks like he does contests fairly regularly, so go check it out, maybe you’ll win the next one *grin*

Besides, Hey! It’s Free!

Going to bed now. G’Night!