Not Your Typical Mother’s Day Post

May 10, 2009

It’s Mother’s Day. That one day of the year that should be the exclusive domain of the mother in your world. Not a Pagan holiday – but yet a day acknowledged by us. But how many celebrate the day in honor of the real “Mother” – the Earth that sustains us all. Oh, that’s done on Earth Day, you say…oh ok, well then let’s focus on more mundane mothers.

Not all women are destined to be mothers, no all women want to be mothers, and some women just shouldn’t be mothers. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with not being a mother is the truest sense – not giving birth. There are many other ways to  be a “mother.” All it requires is unconditional love…simple, huh..? Well, maybe not so much. And yet, a true mother offers just that to her children, be they born to her, adopted by her, or found on the street by her. They can be boys, girls, cats, dogs, ferrets, hamsters, or anything else a woman gives unconditional love to. Yes, you do have to be female to be a mother. But understand in my world, gender is determined by who you are, not what genitalia you happen to be born with.

Unfortunately, there are also women who are termed “mother” but have no right to the title. Women who abuse or abandon the children they created. Many would like to deny that a mother could ever harm her child, but I hate to tell ya, it happens EVERY DAY, in any number of ways. Beating or physically harming a child is not the only form of abuse there is. I would hazard to say, may reading this are fully aware of that, as many of the Pagans I know have been, as children, harmed by their mothers (and fathers). But most have done their best to overcome that damage (yes, I said damage, because it IS damaging. There is NO SHAME in admitting you are damaged through no fault of your own. The shame is in denying it, looking the other way, or pretending you are perfectly normal when you aren’t.)

Mothers sometimes cause damage unintentionally, in the “best interests of their child.” Things like teaching a little girl that the way a marriage works is that the man is in control, and has the right to do whatever he wants, whenever he wants, by staying in an abusive relationship. Children learn more by seeing than they ever will by what you say. In my opinion, it is just as bad to teach a child that marriage  is a simple co-existence with someone you really don’t like, by staying in a relationship where the only thing the partners agree on is that it is better for the kids to have two parents than to be exposed to a true, loving partnership.

Mothers who avoid those mistakes by leaving those negative environments tend to do one of two things – either cease to exist as a woman, by not dating at all but rather throwing themselves into raising & providing for their child. They work ridiculous hours, and spend all their free time with their child. While this is admirable, it is still damaging. How will a child ever learn what a loving, healthy relationship is, if they never see the person they most rely on, in such a relationship. How will they even know such a thing is possible..? Again, this isn’t intentional damage, but it is still damage.

Other mothers go the complete opposite way, so concerned that their child have a father figure in their lives, that they date and date and date, and scramble to form a relationship. Unfortunately, this tends to lead to numerous, unstable relationships, and a child who thinks commitment is always short-term. They feel no one will ever be permanent in their lives, so have trust issues & find it hard to love someone – or easy to love everyone…

Some women just shouldn’t be mothers. Ever. They lack that “something” that makes a mom. They have all the necessary equipment to recreate, but shouldn’t. I don’t think this makes them any less of a woman. Perhaps, that special “something” is absorbed by the souls of our gender confused*** friends somewhere in the ether while waiting to “be.” There are many who are born with male genitalia who are awesome mothers. I don’t know, I just know that some women should never, ever, be given the care of a child’s physical & emotional growth. They aren’t capable of doing the job well, and shouldn’t attempt it. Again, I am not condemning these women. I don’t think it makes them less, just different. What may contribute to making them less is an unwillingness to accept that they shouldn’t attempt motherhood. They then place themselves in a position where they are responsible for a child (or children) and lacking all the necessary “things” to do the job well…

Motherhood is a trick bag of options, and there is no manual available. Yet, there are thousands of mothers who manage to do a supremely difficult job and make it look like a breeze. They raise happy well-adjusted children who become happy well-adjusted adults who carry on the cycle. Thank Goddess for these women! Our world would be in a sorry (ok, sorrier) state than it is if it weren’t for women who are willing to give all of themselves to nurturing & loving these little people who will one day be big people to whom the responsibility of raising more little people has been passed in the cycle of life. Those women who are willing to love unconditionally, not only a child they created & gave birth to, but ANY child who needs loved. They hug, kiss, care for, take in and show that there are good people in the world, that they are worthwhile people, worthy of love. Sometimes it is as simple as inviting them in for a drink when they’ve been playing hard – while the woman who gave birth to them is passed out in her room with her newest “father figure.”

So, to those spectacular people, Mothers, I say Thank You. To those who are trying, Thank You. To anyone who is a loving, caring, nurturing Mother, be you male or female, whether your children are human or furbabies, whether you gave birth to your child, or just loved a child who needed it, Thank you.

Happy Mother’s Day!!!


***I don’t think they’re confused, I feel everyone who is willing, knows exactly what and who they are inside themselves, and that that knowledge doesn’t necessarily match what others see on the outside…    


If you own a snake, bird, fish or small pets you should watch this

May 9, 2009

I found this over at Mrs. B’s. After doing a little research, I felt it was worth sharing. To read what I read you can go here and/or here. These are links to the government site’s info on this proposed bill. To do as the video asks, you can go here.

From Mrs. B:

If you own a snake, bird, fish or small pets you should watch this

If you have not heard of HR 669, and you own a small pet, snake, bird or exotic fish, you need to watch this video and take action. If you work at a pet shop, or are a teacher who’s class has small pets, you should watch, too. Or if you just care about pets and their owners

Hunny’s Got Tats Too!!!!

May 2, 2009

Here is Hunny’s new piece, wanted to get it up, more to come later.

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To see more of our artist’s work, you can go to the pics on his MySpace page. Ok gotta go run errands (ewwwww….) Be back later – at least that’s the plan…LOL

See ya laterzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!

Doctor Follow-up

April 30, 2009

-I’d like to thank The Vinyl Villager for this post. I started to reply to the comment he left on yesterday’s post and about the time I got to *** I realized I wasn’t “commenting” I was essentially writing a post…LOL

Here’s his comment:

Hope you all have a clean bill of health! I friggin hate going to the doctor…

Unfortunately for me, I have several "ongoing issues" – the fibromyalgia, and headaches that apparently have no basis in anything any kind of test can find, but that essentially never go away :(. I do however take a medication that, for a short time, make them ALMOST gone…of it’s a narcotic, and despite having taken it for almost 20 years now, but NONE while pregnant with the boy 🙂 – when I move from Terre Haute to Indy it took a while to find a doctor who believed I wasn’t a drug addict. When he moved about 7 years ago, it took another two years, maybe three, to find my current doc, and we had several run-ins before I finally convinced him I wasn’t hooked on it or abusing it. It took me not taking any for two months (confirmed by blood tests), and me almost (and really, really, realllllly wanting to) literally coming to blows with one of the other providers in the office to do it (that incident may be an upcoming post, actually…). Wow, that was more than you were looking for, huh..? Anywhoooo, he added a high blood pressure med for me (no idea why my blood pressure would be high…) and refilled all the other crap I needed (I take about 8 or 9 different meds).

Hunny, on the other hand, not so good*** (a bit much for a “comment, huh..? although I have left longer ones…*grin*). For those who don’t know Hunny is diabetic. This is a recent discovery (about a year & a half ago, when he went for his DOT physical, his sugar was high, so they refused to ‘stamp’ it & sent him to the doctor. The test they do to determine what the average has been for like the last 2-3 months, called an A1C That’s A one C) came back at like 10% or 11% . According to Diabetes Health “The normal level of A1C in people without diabetes is approximately 4% to 6%. In 1994, the ADA began recommending specific A1C treatment goals based on the results of the DCCT. From that time on, the goal for most people with diabetes has been less than 7%. Each 1% change in A1C represents a change of approximately 35 mg/dl in average blood glucose. Not good. He was started on Janumet & Actos, changed his diet, and was doing very well. His blood sugar readings were running between 85 and 140ish – not GREAT but not really bad either. But then, shit happened, and happened some more, and of course, much most of the rest of the general population, we are having the regular how-the-Hell-do-I-pay-all-these-bills-with-this little-bit-of-money? stuff going on. They’ve cut hime back to about 40 to 45 hours a week (Hunny is your atypical, 1950’s sorta guy. Even though I work, and we have more of a partnership than most in a lot of ways, in his head it’s still his responsibility to not only pay all the bills, but also support me in the style I’d like to become accustomed to…) SO, the stress went up, and his attention to his health went down….He finally decided to start checking his sugars again MONDAY – ‘cuz we had doctor appointments on Wednesday. The first reading..? 465!!!  For those who have no clue what that means, an average person’s sugars run 80 – 90 on average. See a problem here..? So he now has another medication, and a bunch more stress. Stress raises blood sugar. Vicious cycle. Why stress..? Well, to begin with HE COULD DIE FROM THIS. In addition (‘cuz yanno that’s not enough…) if he has to start taking insulin shots, he could lose his job. The Federal government say that if you are diabetic, and you take insulin shots, you can’t hold a CDL…although there is a small glimmer. It seems that if you don’t go out of state/over the road (he doesn’t) you can get a waiver. “That’s Wonderful” you say. Did I mention that the waiver has an associated cost (because what government related anything doesn’t?) $2700 a year. Every year. Where’s my bailout..?

*sigh* why do all my “pots of gold at the end of the rainbow” turn out to be filled with coal..? Oh well, such is life. Either we’ll get by or we won’t : )

There’s more…the boy got a Z pack & a blood draw (still waiting on results), and seems to be doing much better, as I said, more to come : )

Gotta go, the boy gets off the bus in about 10 minutes & I’m sitting here in my underwear, letting the new ink air out *grin*

See ya laterzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!   

New Tattoo!!! Well, ok, a start on a new tattoo/cover up

April 30, 2009


Here is what we are starting with…



Here is just the basic outline…about 45 minutes in



Here is the black work – the part that is cover-up, the rest will follow in the next sitting, maybe…



Here is where I had had enough for one sitting…this is about the 2.5 – 3 hour mark. Now, I wait for healing ( 2 – 4 weeks), and time for another sitting, to go on to the next stage.

Cool, huh..?!?!?


I will continue to post pics from future sittings. Hunny is getting a new one tomorrow…

Ok, going to bed, I’m whupped. Doc put me on high blood pressure meds, and they boy has been given a Z-pack, in liquid form. I didn’t know they made such a critter! Hunny’s blood-sugar is ridiculous )running between 300-450, his urine had over 2000 parts(?) Am going to bed now.

See  ya laterzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!


April 29, 2009

We’re going doctoring today. Hunny I both have appointments, and the boy’s throat & stomach have started acting up again : ( So he’s going with us – our doctor’s office has a wonderful walk-in policy. The problem being Hunny & the boy see the same doctor & I see a different one. Why is that a problem, you ask..? Hunny can just take him in with him and be done! Yeah, ok. Problem..? Hunny isn’t the most, shall we say sympathetic..? when it comes to the boy being ill…

He tries, don’t get me wrong. He just doesn’t succeed real well… Oh well, we’ll figger it out, and I’ll letcha know how it works out…I’m supposed to be getting tattooed today, too, but with the boy sick, I dunno what’s going to happen with that, either : (

Anyways, I’ll catch ya up when I get home to stay 🙂

See ya laterzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!

Books for Prisoners

April 28, 2009

I was going from place to place online this afternoon – I can do that right now, ‘cuz I’m on VACATION! If you can call a weeks worth of organizing, laundry & garage cleaning (pics coming soon…) “vacation.” Anywhoo, I went to Hey! It’s Free, one of my daily visits – when I remember – and clicked a link for free “Nature’s Source Cleaner.” After filling out the form, I was offered a coupon for $1 off as well. I’m all about dollars off!

You: “ How exactly does this have anything to do with books or prisoners..?”
Me: “I’m getting to that, just don’t get your panties in a wad!”

Now, where was I…oh yeah, it wanted me to download a coupon printer, which I didn’t want to do, so went back and clicked on a link that said “7 ideas for recycling your clutter. One of the suggestions (you’ll hafta go yourself if you want to see the rest of the suggestions) was to donate books – there’s a link for donating to soldiers, and one to donate to prisoners. The one to donate to soldiers wants you to fill out a PAPER form and MAIL it. Now I’m not paranoid, not much anyways, but really? Why do I have to fill out a paper & send it to the government in order to donate books..? I’m just sayin’…

So I went to the other one, where you can donate to prisoners. (No paper form required!) and at the top of the list – ok not THE top, but the top of the Fiction & Others list – I saw a request for Pagan books…in bold even. So I thought I would put it up here so my three readers (yeah YOU) can consider going through your shelves, and maybe donate…just a thought…





Books Needed

Books To Prisoners is a Seattle-based, all-volunteer, non-profit group that sends free books to prisoners in the U.S.


Book donations needed!

Books To Prisoners needs the following paperback books.

Note: Please limit box weight to 15 pounds maximum.

Most needed books

  • Dictionaries (English and Spanish/English)

  • Thesaureses

  • Small business and real estate – Running and starting a business

  • Law dictionaries and legal self help

  • Trades (plumbing, electricity, carpentry, construction, auto mechanics)

Reference and text books

  • Dictionaries (including English, Spanish, French, German, Swahili)

  • Dual language dictionaries (particularly Spanish/English)

  • Almanacs (non-current year still great!)

  • Foreign language textbooks (particularly Spanish)

  • Biology, chemistry, and physics text books

  • American Sign Language manuals

  • Legal self-help and legal dictionaries

  • GED prep and high-school level textbooks in all subject areas

  • Vocational, technical, and "how to" books, such as electrical repair, home repair, etc.

  • Small business guides or handbooks (including management)

African-American and Hispanic studies

  • African-American non-fiction (including Black Panther and related material)

  • ANY Mexican or Latino non-fiction (including  Mexican Revolution and Aztec history)

  • World history, especially ancient Greece, Rome, Egypt, and military history

Fiction and Other

  • Wiccan, pagan, mythology, and occult materials

  • Westerns

  • Mystery, thriller, and horror

  • Fantasy

  • True crime

  • Classic literature

  • Philosophy

  • Blank journals/diaries (some pages ripped out is fine)

Vera Bradley Gift Set Giveaway

April 26, 2009

Lauren Nicole Gifts has an awesome Vera Bradley Gift Set to give away.  Find the rules on her blog here.

Teas, Teas & More Teas…

April 26, 2009

Tea is a wonderfully satisfying beverage, and comes in so many varieties anymore…

Witches, and pagans, and people who are health conscious are turning to tea as an alternative to coffee (never happen here…) and soda (Hunny’s summer drink…)

I was filling time this afternoon after cleaning out my car (6 hours & still not done – but in my defense, I am doing a deep clean…), showering & doing dinner, and went to check out my BzzAgent Account. For those of you who don’t know, BzzAgent is AWESOME! BzzAgent is (in their words…)

“We’re a word-of-mouth media network powered by a half-million people. We pair consumers with products and supply digital tools that make widespread opinion-sharing easy.”

In English..? You go to their site and sign up. They send you shit. I got a Logitech Universal Remote control that is absolutely rockin’! I did a post on it when I got it almost a year ago, and if anything I like it better now than I did then! Or sell you shit dirt cheap. Then you use what they’ve sent you. Then you talk about it to friends, relatives, anyone who will listen. Then you just go back to the site & write about talking about it.

I did one about the new Take Care Clinic located in Walgreens. It doesn’t matter if you like the subject of the campaign or not, you still get rewarded for reporting your findings & opinions. The experience I had at the Take Care Clinic was decidedly negative, surprisingly & total unexpectedly. The Walgreen I use has some of the nicest employees I’ve run across in a pharmacy. When CVS bought out the Osco’s we had gone to for years, I just kinda pharmacy jumped til we moved down here. This Walgreen’s is much like Osco’s was, and I fully expected the clinic located inside it to be staffed with similar people. Not. I’ll not go back, I’ll tell ya that! But, back to BzzAgent, they’re currently offering a “Family Gaming System” I have found being sold currently for $99.99 and up for $29.99 if you’re a member & willing to use & and report on it…

Anywho, as is par for the course with me, I have wandered a bit from my original reason for posting. As I was going through the Frogpond offerings (I’m not going on another tangent – you wanna know, go check out BzzAgent. And no, I don’t get anything for your going – at least I don’t think I do…), I cam across this website as a frogpond offering Yogi Teas. Tea, tea and more tea. Cool, huh? Have fun with it!

Going now, for now…

See ya laterzzzzzzzzzzzz

Police Wives Blogathon

April 25, 2009
The Blogathon is On!

The date for the Police Wives Online blogathon is set for Saturday April 25. It will officially start at 9AM Saturday morning and end at 9AM on Sunday. Bloggers will mainly consist of members of Police Wives Online, but I am willing to allow for sign-ups of any interested bloggers, provided all donation are made either through this blog or through the main donation page on Police Wives Online. Donations will benefit the many programs at Police Wives Online including the H.U.G.S. (Helping Uplift Grieving Survivors) program and a newly created scholarship fund for law enforcement families.
Here are the many ways you can help out:……. For more on this, or to donate, go to Police Wives Online

No I’m not a police wife – I’m a redneck, truck driver wife *grin* But I am a police friend & police sister-in-law. I found this by clicking a link in a comment on The Vinyl Villager ( a daily requirement!) which took me to Note To Self (how funny is that…my last post was a “note to self” what a cowinkydink!), which took me to the blog-a-thon. Since I am way broke today (and tomorrow & the next day…) I can’t donate right now, but I can make sure all three of my readers know about it, and give them a chance to go visit & maybe donate to a good cause 🙂

PWO Blogathon Button Comp

Go on! Check it  out! What are you waiting for..?

See ya laterzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz